SELF WORTH & ITS IMPORTANCE - AKINBOYO OLUWAFISAYOMI

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‘SELF-WORTH & ITS IMPORTANCE’

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Oluwafisayomi: Thank you for the privilege Bishop David, Before we proceed, Let's pray

Thank you Father for tonight, we pray that our eyes of understanding is enlightened as we learn at His feet tonight. Amen

Can the Church say Amen????

So, this little girl would be taking to us on the topic: Self-Worth and its importance

Let's begin

Self-worth is an internal state of being that comes from self-understanding, self-love, and self-acceptance, it is a direct measure of how you value and regard yourself.

Before we dive into what self-worth is, it is possible we know who we are, which I call self-identity. That's the starting point...

If you don't know who you are, you won't know your worth

So now the question here is Who am I? who are you? who are we?

I think the first thing that comes to your mind when being asked this question, is your name, where you are from and what you do.

But it is way more than that aside our name and the physical characteristics that made us up.

What else?

Too often, we base our identities on what we do, defining ourselves by those pursuits. By doing so, we're significantly limiting ourselves.

I hope we're following bayiiiii

I made the tragic mistake of trying to find my identity in things and people, rather than looking to the source alone.

The truth is that God intends for all people to be identified with Christ.

Your identity in Christ doesn't depend on your hair color, body type, or which lunch table you sit at.

Have you allowed other people to define you? To tell you who you are and who you aren't? You don't need to stress yourself, God has already defined you in His perfect Son, Jesus Christ!

Who we are doesn't define us, our environment or situations surrounding us should not define us, our true identity is in the one who created us.

But we forget that identity sometimes. It's so funny how we end up chasing after meaningless earthly possessions and sinful experiences to "find ourselves," to try to fit in, to try to be cool. To try and be someone we're not.

Your true identity hides somewhere much more precious than things and experiences and that identity is eternal.

Your true identity is found in Christ. He has defined you, you don't need to allow anything to define you, not your situation, not your environment or anything else.

Don't forget we're still talking about Self Identity

Self-Identity as the basis of self-worth

Our identity is in Christ

Glorrrrrryyyyy

I believe we're saved!

So when next you're been asked who you are, tell them you are a believer, you are saved, you redeemed, you have been called out of darkness into His marvellous Light, you belong to God's Family, your Identity is found in Him alone, you are who and what the father says you are.

Let's this keep ringing in our mind daily!

Now that we know who we are, knowing our worth or having a high self-worth won't be difficult

Let's be reminded that

Self-worth is an internal state of being that comes from self-understanding, self-love, and self-acceptance, it is a direct measure of how you value and regard yourself.

Mark the words!

Self-understanding

Self-love

Self-acceptance

Measure of one's value

It's important to talk about Self-esteem when talking about self worth, though they are related but they are slightly different

How you feel about yourself is heavily influenced by how you think you’re fairing compared to others.

In other words, your self-esteem is derived from what you think others “think” of you based on your results and actions.

It’s quite clear that self-esteem is not something that comes from within ourselves, but rather something that comes from outside of ourselves and subsequently influences how we feel at any given moment.

Now, of course, how we feel at any given time has nothing to do with reality, but instead, it’s purely based on our perspective and interpretation of that reality.

A high degree of self-worth naturally enhances our self-esteem, thereby providing us with the self-confidence needed to follow through with our chosen decisions and actions.

Self identity is the basis of self worth and self worth enhances our self-esteem* which would result to self-confidence, believing in oneself and also in God's ability through you

Believing in what God can do through you

Most of the time, we focus more on measuring ourselves against others, rather than paying attention to our intrinsic value.

“Our competitive culture tells us we need to be special and above average to feel good about ourselves, but the truth is we can’t all be above average at the same time.”

In this sense, searching for self-worth by constantly comparing self-worth vs. self-esteem ourselves to others means fighting a lost battle.

There is always someone richer, more attractive, or successful than you are. And even when we do manage to feel self-esteem for one golden moment, we can’t hold on to it. Our sense of self-worth bounces around like a ping-pong ball, rising and falling in lock-step with our latest success or failure.”

Furthermore, studies now show that basing one’s self-worth on external factors is actually harmful to one’s mental health.

Most of the time we, base our self-worth on external sources (including academic performance, appearance and approval from others), anger, academic problems and relationship conflicts or our past.

Which is not supposed to be

Although real accomplishments are important to acknowledge as you build your sense of self, your self-worth should also take in to account the unique qualities that make you you.

We are all unique and that, in and of itself, gives each of us inherent value.

We shouldn’t be rating ourselves, we should just be ourselves.” Keep being whom God has called you and made you to be.

How to Build Self-Worth?

The first step in building self-worth is to stop comparing yourself to others and evaluating your every move; in other words, you need to challenge your critical inner voice.

The critical inner voice is like a nasty coach in our heads that constantly nags us with destructive thoughts towards ourselves or others. This internalized dialogue of critical thoughts or “inner voices” undermines our sense of self-worth and even leads to self-destructive or maladaptive behaviors, which make us feel even worse about ourselves.

We all have a “critical inner voice,” which acts like a cruel coach inside our heads that tells us we are worthless or undeserving of happiness.

Don't listen to that voice but God's voice

Most of us have concluded In our heart that we can't make it big, we can't get the best Job, we can't get the best Man or woman for ourselves, we are not Worthy to be a Pastor's wife probably because of our past or because we think we don't know much, most of the time we allow destructive thoughts to run through our mind, instead of working on ourselves and increasing our worth.

§ Who says you can't get the best Man?

§ Who says you can't marry someone higher than you? In all aspects?

§ Who says you are not outspoken enough?

§ Who says you amount to nothing?

§ What is that thing telling you, you can't do it

§ Who says you can't fit into that big shoe?

§ Who says you are too small to take up given responsibilities?

§ Why have you allowed external factors to define you? Why have you allowed your background to put your back on the ground? Why have you allowed those voices to limit you and reduce your worth?

§ Why?

§ Who says you need to be perfect before you do the needful?

§ Who says you must know all what Reinhard Bonke knew before you preach the gospel?

 

A true sense of self-worth can also be fostered by practicing self-compassion. That's another way to build our self-worth.

Self-compassion is the practice of treating yourself with the same kindness and compassion as you would treat a friend, which means being Curious, Open, Accepting and Loving toward yourself and your experiences rather than being self-critical.

We need to forgive ourselves of all we've deprived it of

Forgive yourself of all the opportunities you've missed all because you listened to that Critical inner voice

Forgive yourself of all the guys/ladies you let go just because you feel you're worthless or not up to level or standard

Forgive yourself of the mistakes you've made by trying to define yourself by external factors

After forgiving yourself, Add values to your life, by taking part in activities that you feel are important

Its another great way to build self-worth

Helping others, for example, offers a huge boost to your sense of self-worth. Generosity is good for you, both physically and mentally, even spiritually

Engage in things that would add values to your live instead of wasting time criticizing our self.

The more you criticize yourself, the more you reduce your worth

Do more of self-evaluation and self-improvement rather than self-criticism

It would help in increasing or building your self-worth.

Think about the activities and interests that feel meaningful to you personally and pursue those activities to build a more positive feeling of self-worth.

Find “a goal that is bigger than the self.” “Investing energy in transcendent goals and activities that extend beyond one’s self interest can also help in building Self worth and self-esteem.

“Make a concerted effort to maintain personal integrity in your life by insisting that your actions correspond to your words,” Dr. Robert Firestone says When our actions do not match our words, we are more vulnerable to attacks from our critical inner voice and less likely to respect or regard ourselves.

Are we still awake bayiii?? The pen would stop bleeding soon

By challenging your critical inner voice and stopping comparing yourself to others, you can begin to get a feeling for your own self-worth.

By pursuing activities that are meaningful to you and acting in line with your own personal beliefs, you can develop your sense of yourself as a worthwhile person in the world and even further.

ü Never feel worthless, that's not who you are

ü Never believe you Don't deserve the best, you won't go far with such thoughts

ü Never believe you can't do it, you are more than what you think you are

ü Never believe you can't marry someone higher than you, someone you are not up to his/her standard....That maybe a platform to make you come up higher

ü Never believe you can't do what God has called you to do because you are not fit enough

ü Never make the mistake of giving nothing all because you have little to offer

ü Just step out and watch Him glorify Himself through you

ü Don't be too comfortable in your comfort Zone

ü Engage in things thy would add value to your life

ü Give yourself more to prayers and the ministry of the word

ü Get engaged in things that would yield productivity.

ü Don't settle for less, Never

ü Aim big, Aim High

ü Don't compare yourself to another, stop criticizing yourself, pls stop, Don't allow external factors to define you, you are not your worst mistake, you are not your past, you are not your problems, you are who the Father says you are.

Do more of self- evaluation and improvement

Do all you can to increase or build your self- worth and self-Esteem if you want to go far.

If you forget anything

Don't forget that you are what your Father says you are, always live with this consciousness, and walk in the reality of whom you are and what you have in Christ Jesus

I call you blessed!

Speaker: Akinboyo Oluwafisayomi Adenike

Convener: Awotiku Akinlayo David

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